Thursday, August 06, 2009

Tony Deblauwe Teaches Us How to Tangle With Tyrants - Bosses, That Is

Tony Deblauwe

This topic should be of interest to a great many of you out there. Who hasn't had to deal with a difficult boss at some time or another? Let's see what Tony's advice is.

Do you dread going to work because of your boss? Quitting is not always an option and feeling like a victim of a bad boss only robs you of productivity, job satisfaction, and power. Career strategist and workplace expert Tony Deblauwe has spent years coaching weary employees how to be more effective with difficult bosses, and he has compiled his experiences into this indispensable guide.

Tangling with Tyrants®: Managing the Balance of Power at Work offers practical techniques that show you how to build a communication process that will turn things around to help you build successful outcomes. You’ll get guidance on addressing direct and indirect bad boss behaviors, developing the right approach, and achieving mutually beneficial outcomes. By applying the techniques in this book, you will be equipped with the right tools to handle your boss and create the results you want.

What Inspired Me to Write My Book

I reported to a bad boss early in my career. I didn’t know what to do at the time and spent more energy agonizing over how unfair it was to report to a difficult boss rather than try and fix the relationship. I didn’t want to throw up my hands and quit so my alternative was to figure out a way I could work with him. After much trial and error I started seeing a pattern of communication that was effective whether the boss was a bully (like I had) or a more ineffective and detached style. I started coached others on my methods and refined several techniques that could be duplicated in the field. When I saw I was adding value, I knew I wanted to write a book and share my advice with others.

The inspiration for the title stemmed from the angst I saw in people over their bad boss troubles. It felt like a struggle—a tightness that needed relief. I tried to qualify that feeling with the idea of being tied up in knots. I took it a step further and eventually came to the tangling concept. Someone is so frustrated by their boss they get entangled in emotions and they cannot communicate effectively anymore. The “Tyrants” piece was a little easier. Since I wasn’t writing a book about several boss types or just the bully boss, I wanted one concept, one profile that captured a mixture of traits that magnify some kind of stress and irritation in employees. A “Tyrant” as one distinct profile of disruptive behaviors stuck with people I polled regardless if their boss was a bully or not.

About Tony:
During his career in Human Resources, Tony has worked through many complex people and business challenges to yield lasting results for customers. His interest in high-tech and how technology impacts people has given him insight into what it takes for people to succeed in a virtual economy.

Tony grew up in an eclectic family just a few blocks from Apple headquarters in Cupertino, California. The son of Belgian immigrants, his father is a former college professor of art, language and history. His mother is an entrepreneur having worked in haute couture fashion design. Tony's exposure to several world perspectives fuel his cultural awareness and understanding.

Tony believes in collaboration of perspectives and ideas to yield successful results. He applies his expertise in human resources, organization development, and coaching to provide solutions that strengthen ways of working and achieve beneficial outcomes.

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  1. I would guess your book is very popular! Great idea, especially in this shaky economic climate.

    Morgan Mandel

  2. Right now especially, people do not have the option of leaving their jobs.

    I have a tough boss, too - myself! LOL

    L. Diane Wolfe

  3. I am so happy to say that I cannot relate to this. I have always been lucky in the boss department. Mine now is fabulous...I adore her.

  4. What a terrific book idea...and a fabulous title! I'm sure it's a resource that will be of help to many :).

  5. Where was this book when I was in the work a day world? I had to cope on my own, but I did survive. Now my boss is even harder, but then I look in the mirror and yell at him.

  6. I have been extremly lucky in that department, but I absolutely love the title.
    Margot Justes

  7. Where did I read that if you talk bad about your boss or company, you can get fired? I think it was a woman on Twitter, anyone remember that? So...all I have to say is give me home sweet home...

    It is an interesting subject, though, and I'm sure Tony's advice will help anyone who needs help in that area!

  8. I don't have a boss now, except for myself, but I could have used this book in my past life when I had to leave the house to get to the office.

    How funny that I blogged about book titles and you had a guest talking about how he came up with his book title.

    Straight From Hel

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